Are you a Highly Sensitive Person?

Tamara Low

Energetic Freedom Coach, Author

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According to Elaine Aron PhD, the author of “The Highly Sensitive Person“, Fifteen to twenty percent of the population are Highly Sensitive and says another 30 percent of the population feel moderately sensitive in the average social situation. It is a largely inherited trait and it is estimated that about 70% of HSPs are introverts and 30% extroverts.

This trait is also seen in a minority of many species (over 100, so far), including fruit flies and some fish which have inherited a survival strategy of “pausing to check, observe, and reflect on or process what has been noticed before choosing an action.”

The Main Characteristics of Being an HSP :

The mind and nervous system of Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) work differently than most. Aron calls the most basic quality of the Highly Sensitive Person the tendency to process information more deeply (semantic memory). They “think about their own thinking” and “have a rich, complex inner life.”

HSPs have greater awareness and sensitive processing of subtle stimuli. They notice things more deeply, such as the “awareness of other’s nonverbal clues or about their mood or trustworthiness. In paying more attention to details than others do, this knowledge can be used to make better predictions in the future, says Aron. This has an evolutionary purpose which serves the majority.

Greater awareness of the subtle tends to make people more intuitive, “which simply means picking up and working through information in a semiconscious or unconscious way (Aron).” They can learn without being aware they have learned. Heightened emotional reactivity has also been observed in brain scans, marked by increased activation in the brain’s insula and the mirror neuron system.

How Being and HSP Inpacts Us:

HSPs have a low threshold for stimulation– they become overstimulated and stressed by overstimulation very easily. There is an essential need for quiet, calm, and alone time. Being in nature, soothes, calms and assists in maintaining balance.

They often have an aversion to large groups; too much going on, loud music, noise, bright lights, and strong smells can also be difficult. They will likely avoid violent shows and movies. HSPs are deeply affected by other people’s moods and emotions. They do best without distractions, and don’t like chaos, being rushed, and being under pressure.

They tend to have a deep love and appreciation of music and the arts and feel joy, love, and appreciation more deeply!

Judith Orloff notes that it takes Highly Sensitive People longer to wind down after a busy day because their system’s ability to transition from high stimulation to quiet and calm is slower.

The Challenges that Highly Sensitive People Might Face:

It can certainly be challenging being part of a minority group trying to ‘fit in’ and adapt to the majority! As we know, the world moves at a very rapid, intense pace. Many HSPs are trying so desperately to keep up with this pace that was/is set by the majority. This can lead to exhaustion, anxiety, burnout, lack of interest, etc. As incredibly difficult as it is, we NEED to find, listen to, and honour our own pace!

Understanding The Trait, Understanding Ourselves

Due to the fact that many HSPs felt misunderstood because their temperament was often not understood by those around them, this might cause them to feel (deep down) that there is something wrong with them and that they are different, weird, flawed, unacceptable, inconvenient, etc., and can result in feeling shameful, embarrassment, guilt. As a result, we might choose/or have “chosen to hide it, and adapted, acting like the non-sensitive majority.” The fear of being judged, criticized, shamed, and ridiculed by other people is very real.

Not Viewed Positively

Aron says “our inner dialogue will mimic what our early caregivers thought of this trait” and what society thinks of it. In our culture, possessing this trait is not considered ideal for many and may be viewed or seen as a weakness. In contrast, in places like China, it is considered to be positive and acceptable.

Depressed and anxious HSPs, according to Aron, almost all had troubled childhoods.

“In order to survive, an infant will do whatever he or she must to adapt to the caretakers, with temperament going underground to resurface in some other way later. If someone caring for you became angry or dangerous, the conscious mind buried that information as too awful to acknowledge, even while your unconscious developed a deeply mistrustful attitude.”

Elaine N Aron Ph.D. The Highly Sensitive Person

Viewed Positively

On a happier note, Aron noted that rhesus monkeys with this trait were raised by skilled mothers, they were more likely to show “developmental precocity”, resilience to stress and be leaders of their social group and their triumphs in the world are more significant. The parents of a highly sensitive child often develop an especially intimate bond with their child.

Do you Struggle with Your High Sensitivity?

I am very interested in the feelings and attitudes that Highly Sensitive People hold toward this trait/themselves. I struggled with it myself for SO many years and because of it, I felt like a burden and a weakness in me. It was not viewed in a positive light when I was a child or in some of my relationships. Here are some of the belief systems that someone might hold:

How others made/make me feel about being Highly Sensitive:

  • This trait is a burden, inconvenience, annoying and unacceptable to others.
  • Others told me that I am “too sensitive” and “to stop being so sensitive!”

As a result, I feel:

  • there is something deeply wrong with me. 
  • deeply flawed, different, broken, weak, needy, high maintenance, not ok and acceptable as I am.
  • disapproved of. I don’t ‘fit’ or belong, rejected by and misunderstood by others so I reject myself and beat myself up. I feel like I cant be myself.
  • the need to try to hide who I am and hide this trait, trying to be “normal” and “adapt” to fit in.
  • guilty and shameful for who I am.
  • alone, sad, isolated, frustrated.
  • that this trait is a disability and I hate it. 

Personal Challenges as a Result of Being and HSP

As a result of our unique mind and nervous system and being in a fast-paced, loud world, we likely have developed some difficult feelings, limiting beliefs and frustrations. We have likely developed coping strategies as a result of feeling:

  • drained, overstimulates and overwhelmed by others and needing to isolate and be alone.  
  • not being able to handle crowds, loud noises and too much going on. 
  • not able to handle being rushed and under pressure. 
  • overwhelmed by life.
  • needing to isolate myself and be alone to try to find internal balance/regulation.
  • ashamed (and frustrated) about being different and not being able to tolerate and do what most people can. 
  • that sometimes it would be nice to be like everyone else. 

Physical, Mental and Emotional Self Care

I feel it is SO important to have an open and honest dialogue with ourselves as a result of our challenges, internalized messages and difficulties. This is how we were created and is who we are. Hiding in shame and isolation is to me, tragic and unnecessary!

“Taking good care of a highly sensitive body is like taking care of an infant”, says Aron. To maintain balance and good health, most people do not need to do that or even think about that. To me, this quote sums everything up so beautifully! It does not make you weak; it makes you truly unique!!

Our Beliefs and Attitudes Towards our Sensitivity

Our beliefs and attitudes about our sensitivity impact our lives in a very deep and profound way. My goal and passion are to assist others in taking the steps to fully embrace and accept ALL of ourselves, including this trait.

To make peace with high sensitivity, the difficulties and challenges of beginning to see it as a unique gift, we need to explore these beliefs and attitudes that we hold and heal the deeper wounds. How do we do this?

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT, or “Tapping”) can be done on ANY of the above beliefs (or any additional ones that you might have). This helps us clean out any “cobwebs” that keep us stuck, hidden, small, and from our TRUE authentic selves!! Pranic Healing can deeply assist in balancing and regulating our sensitive nervous system.

Please feel free to reach out and schedule a free 15-minute call today or email


Aron Ph.D., Elaine N.. The Highly Sensitive Person. Citadel Press. Kindle Edition. 

Orloff, Judith. The Empath’s Survival Guide (pp. 5-6). Sounds True. Kindle Edition

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Soulful Purpose in Business

Wouldn’t it be incredible if we were all encouraged to find our soulful purpose from a young age?

Imagine how your life and work would be different as a free-spirited HSP/Empath. It’s never too late to reclaim those buried or dormant parts. You CAN live and work with more meaning, authenticity, and enjoyment. It’s a matter of clearing the blocks that are getting in your way. Using EFT, I can help you with that.

The challenge for free-spirited, creative HSP/Empaths:

I have always felt the profound significance of living authentically with soul purpose. To live free of conditioned paradigms (that do not work for us). And to experience creativity, joy, and wonder.

Still, like most of us, I was trained to follow, ‘fit in,’ and got swept up in conditioned paradigms and expectations. 

When we are young, we learn by observing and adapting to our worldly surroundings. We are often told or shown by our parent(s), caregivers, and society at large who THEY THINK we are and should be. It’s about WHO they want us to be, WHAT they want us to do, say, or behave like, and what they think we should DO. This can create an immense amount of confusion.

Unconsciously, we can become controlled and led by beliefs that were learned and taught. Often, they do not even have origins in who we are and how we desire to live. It is so incredibly easy to become lost and deviated.

The trouble is, we are beautiful spirits designed to create, express, learn, grow, share, and explore. To live a life that is from us. Meant for us. And to BE FREE of conditioning. Free from the layers of pain, hurt, trauma, shoulds, and have to’s that direct us away from our true nature, uniqueness, and soulful purpose.

It’s painful to be a free-spirited, creative HSP/Empath trying to navigate and fit in where we do not belong. This can result in depression, anxiety, deep discontentment, and frustration, etc. 

The good news is that there are things we can do to retrieve and reclaim those buried or dormant parts of us. The parts and expectations that are not a fit for us. And to heal the parts of us that do not believe it’s possible to be ourselves. So we can do what we love OR take the risk to do something else that is more in line with us!

How do we make the needed changes to align with our purpose/soulful path?

I have had many unfulfilling jobs in my life and a two-decade business that was not soulfully fulfilling for me. I felt deeply bored, stuck, and trapped. My discontentment kept getting louder, and my spirit would no longer let me look away. Making a leap into the unknown felt terrifying. I did not know what my financial future was going to hold. But I knew that I HAD to do whatever it took to find where my soul was longing to be.

I did A LOT of EFT sessions on all the fear, paralysis, terror, guilt, etc. lying under making the change. It took a deep desire, diligence, openness (and a bit of courage) to remove the fears and conditioning so I could realign with my path. But it is so worth it!

And in the end, it ALL turned out even better than I could have imagined!

You know the expression ‘the universe has your back’? Well, once I cleared all the energetic blocks and fears, things started falling into place. I felt utterly ‘taken care of’ in the broader sense. And I believe everyone can access it if that is in their heart and soul’s desires!

The power of alignment:

I was listening to an interview with EFT Master Carol Look, and she sums this up extremely well by saying, “…appreciation is the energy of alignment. Manifestations follow emotions, and when you are in the emotion of appreciation, that is when things start to shift on that vibrational (or energy) level.”

When we are in the alignment or frequency of flow, life can bring us all kinds of miraculous things with ease. Ideas, solutions, inspirations, seeing things differently, opportunities.

Look goes on to say that, “when we are in alignment, we are open to all possibilities and can appreciate them when they arise.” 

Yes!! I have seen this over and over in my own life! So, to get into alignment, we need to remove the incongruencies (aka negative limiting beliefs, fears, etc.). Then life energy is free to flow in us, and we can create joy and beauty through our alignment! 

How EFT Helps us to Get Into Alignment With Our Uniqueness and Soulful Purpose:  

Shoulds, have to’s, guilt, shame, fear, mistrust, etc., are NOT in the energy of alignment. What is? Authenticity, passion, purpose, curiosity, meaning, trust, faith, expressing our uniqueness and true selves.

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) helps us learn about, observe, hear, and accept how we FEEL. With honesty and compassion, we can honour what’s happening (unconsciously) in our inner worlds! It helps us to gain clarity, insight, and inner knowing. When we are open, we can better understand ourselves and the parts and places that need care and healing.

It has helped me gain insight and understanding in a profound way. I have developed compassion for myself. Freed myself from layers upon layers of conditioned thoughts and beliefs. Released deep emotional pains and burdens. BE me. Live and create a life in line with me.

EFT also helps us to regulate our nervous system so that we experience more balanced calm. Then, with openness and curiosity, we can hear our inner knowing, wisdom, and what our spirits reveal to us!

We Are Not Meant to Fit Into or Conform to Societal Norms and Structures!

We are here to find, reveal, and cultivate the path that is unique to only us!

I am in awe of how beautifully unique everyone is. Unique gifts, talents, abilities, goals, passions, desires, energetic vibration, and soulful purpose(s). Each of us is an essential piece of the bigger puzzle of existence here on Earth.

From my perspective, free Spirited HSPs and Empaths are here to assist in breaking free of old, toxic, harmful, and worn-out institutions and paradigms. We can see/feel/know things that are not aligned with truth and love. So we have essential elements to offer and contribute to healing in the world/planet.

The world needs the energy, skills, compassion, love, care, heart, creativity, kindness, peace, wisdom, etc. of HSP/Empaths…

Getting Support to re-emerge with Soulful Purpose in your Business (as an HSP/Empath):

I am here to support you in celebrating your uniqueness. To help you re-emerge as who you were (before being caught up in cultural and societal conditioned and false beliefs about yourself). If you don’t feel like you fit or belong – you are not meant to!

Book a 15 min discovery link call and we can begin to honour and discover your unique soul’s path!! What you dream of, lights you up, gives you goosebumps, and fills you with joy, freedom, and aliveness!! 

What if you could authentically do what you love AND experience the universe’s support via financial security?

Would you be doing something different in your business right now? Elsewhere?

Let’s explore and see!



Welcome to Sensitive Soul Path

I am passionate about Highly Sensitive People (HSP) and Empaths living beautifully authentic and inspired lives!


 I delight in assisting people to gently uncover the parts and places (in us) that are longing and need to be heard. Our feelings and body sensations hold MUCH wisdom! Often, we try to push away feelings we have labelled as uncomfortable, scary, wrong, or shameful. In locking them in, we cannot hear and understand their deeper meaning, what they are really trying to communicate to us. It also affects our energy and interest levels, and health. 


When we gently give voice to locked-in emotions and sensations, we can discover the gifts and wisdom they offer and become energetically free to BE ourselves completely! 


  1. Where is your inner voice and soul’s purpose guiding and directing you (to which people, situations, service, passions, gifts, etc.)?

          2. What is wanting to be heard, said, released or done?

 I love to work with HSPs and Empaths that love to do safe, deep inner exploring work to release the layers that do not serve them and their purpose, such as


  • clearing and unravelling the energetic blocks along their soul path. These could be unconscious beliefs we took in as a child. 
  • to break free from harmful conditioning in all its forms that do not fit our soul’s purpose and embrace all of themselves and a life fulfilling and authentic to them! 
  • energetically removing yourself from being bogged down by other people’s negative energy or expectations, e.g. do you stay in a situation because of guilt and shame? 
  • clearing the energetic residue of what is keeping you stuck and paralyzed in places and situations that do not resonate in harmony with your souls. 
  • external drains and pressures that do not come from our true desires 
  • clearing the blocks and barriers to accepting and caring for ourselves at the deepest levels.
  • balance our sensitive nervous systems

 If you answered ‘Yes!’ to any of the following questions, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT or ‘Tapping’) and/or Pranic Healing could assist you. Please ask me how! 


Do you?

  • want and need to make a significant change, but fear, guilt or shame is leaving you paralyzed, preventing you from taking that leap?
  • feel bogged down by other people’s expectations, societal pressures, and early conditioning? 
  • are you aware of how many expectations you have of yourself that don’t actually belong to you?
  •  feel like you do not fit into society and the existing paradigms and institutions?
  • is the pace of society too busy and rushed for you and your nervous system?
  • struggle with SHOULDS? And as a result, feel like you are not living a life in alignment with your TRUE self?

 Does any of this leave you feeling frustrated, bored, disillusioned, anxious, angry, depressed, unfulfilled, stuck, etc.? 


While avoiding external pressures can feel challenging on many levels, ultimately, this is what I believe:


 We (HSP Empaths) are not meant to try and “fit in”; we are meant to SEE and FEEL and BE in the world from OUR unique perspective and soul’s purpose!! 

Emotional Freedom Techniques are especially helpful in supporting HSP Empath healing and empowerment:

Emotional Freedom Techniques (also called EFT, or “Tapping”) is a masterful way to gain clarity and insight. EFT helps remove the energetic and emotional blocks, fears, beliefs, and emotions (such as shame) from the body.

Struggle and/or emotional pain is a block or disruption in our body’s energy system. Our body gives us clues through feelings and sensations about what is happening within us (e.g. a sore stomach, tight chest). Similarly, it tells us how we feel around others and in certain environments. 

In other words, our body tells us when something is not in alignment. With that awareness, we have the power to shift it.

Benefit of an EFT practitioner and Energetic Freedom Coach for HSP/ Empaths:

My goal is to provide a SAFE, compassionate, secure, and non-judgemental space for you to peel back the layers to release what no longer serves you (aka all those SHOULDs).

SHOULDs, HAVE TOs, and other people’s expectations don’t have to hold you back from your passions and stop you from embracing your brilliant, sensitive, and empathic nature.

You CAN live a life in a way that feels TRUE to you….

If you are curious about how EFT can help you care for your HSP Empath nature, I’d love to have a no-pressure chat.

Reach out and schedule your free 15-minute call today or email

Warmly, Tamara