Caring for your HSP/Empath Nature in Work Life

Tamara Low

Energetic Freedom Coach, Author

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Do you feel exhausted, frustrated, unfulfilled, or swept along by life in your work or business? It is essential as HSP Empaths that we learn to honour and take EXTRA care of this part of ourselves.

One way to do that is by getting proactive about ditching the SHOULDs and HAVE TO’s that are weighing you down. EFT “tapping” can help you get unstuck by releasing the energetic hold of those deeply ingrained beliefs and messages that we have internalized.

Understanding the traits of a highly sensitive person and empath:

Empaths and Highly Sensitive People (HSP) have a unique (NOT wrong) way of experiencing, feeling, observing, perceiving, and processing the world around them. It is estimated that 3-5% of the population are empaths, and around 15-20% are Highly Sensitive People. I happen to be both.

Empaths feel everything. We can absorb the emotions of others into our bodies (as well as any other positive and negative energies in our environment). As a result, Empaths can get tired, worn down, and sick around too much loud noise, high-stress environments, and toxic people or situations. Empaths can also be more prone to social anxiety due to all the ‘unspoken signals’ we pick up on.

Highly Sensitive People (HSP) have a low threshold for stimulation; we notice and process information more deeply and have greater awareness and sensitive processing of subtle stimuli. Elaine Aron, the author of “The Highly Sensitive Person“ says, HSPs have inherited a survival strategy of “pausing to check, observe, and reflect on or process what has been noticed before choosing an action.” So we need to build this into our response time.

Both Empaths and HSPs need a lot of time alone to process things and have minimal tolerance for socializing and small talk. Neither do well in fast-paced environments where being rushed is the norm.

As you can imagine, these traits can deeply impact our work and business lives and make it quite challenging at times to stay grounded in who we are.

The pressure and problem of trying to “Fit in” as an HSP Empath:

Meanwhile, there’s constant pressure to “fit in”. So many of us have felt the need in our lives to try and adapt to fit into situations, surroundings, and models that were not MADE for or MEANT for US.  

Over time, leaving ourselves behind in this way shows up in our lived experience.

For example, we may struggle with stress, depression, lethargy, disinterest, and boredom. We may wonder why other people have an easier time, etc. Or perhaps we begin to feel uninspired with no sense of purpose, passion, and aliveness in our business anymore.

As fears arise, we may become resigned to thinking that this is how it will always be.

That’s not true. But it makes total sense to feel this way since most systems and institutions revolve around a NON-highly-sensitive majority.

Importantly, there is nothing wrong with YOU. It’s a matter of uncovering a more peaceful, kind, and loving way to be with ourselves and live on this earth.

Gaining clarity on the ‘SHOULDS’ that get in the way:

We learn to adapt to the world around us by developing many SHOULDs. Unfortunately, these inadvertently end up preventing us from having the work or business life that we desire. For example:

  • I SHOULD be able to fit into the norm and be like everyone else.  
  • I SHOULD be able to do the things that everyone else does (and do it the way everyone else does). 
  • I SHOULD be able to keep up with their pace, have more clients, make more money…etc.
  • I SHOULD do what others think I should do business and career-wise (versus trust myself).

These beliefs can make us feel flawed, less than, and like we don’t measure up. We can feel ashamed (and frustrated) about being different or in our inability to tolerate and do what most people can. Not surprisingly, low self-esteem can sneakily take hold.

So it’s no wonder trying to measure up feels like such a burden! Perpetuating these SHOULDs drains our energy and keeps us feeling stuck.

Are you aware of how many expectations you have of yourself that don’t actually belong to you?

Take a moment to consider whose voice is leading the way.

While avoiding external pressures can feel challenging on many levels, ultimately, this is what I believe:

We (HSP Empaths) are not meant to try and “fit in”; we are meant to SEE and FEEL and BE in the world from OUR unique perspective and soul’s purpose. 

Under all those SHOULDs is an opportunity to honour our own nature.

Re-emerging as WHO WE ARE (before we got caught up in cultural and societal conditioning):

Beneath all those expectations, your own voice exists and is waiting to be heard. To me, the ultimate goal as an HSP Empath entrepreneur is to create a livelihood that:

  1. is in line with our sensitivity and empathic nature, where we honour and accept ourselves and what we need, AND
  2. brings our WHOLE selves into our work/business environment.

This is grounded in a sense of possibility and KNOWING that transformational change begins within each one of us.

But how do we do this? How do we get clear on the degree to which the SHOULDS prevent us from re-emerging as our true selves? 

We start releasing to create space for what’s next.

Emotional Freedom Techniques are especially helpful in supporting HSP Empath healing and empowerment:

Emotional Freedom Techniques (also called EFT, or “Tapping”) is a masterful way to gain clarity and insight. EFT helps remove the energetic and emotional blocks, fears, beliefs, and emotions (such as shame) from the body.

Struggle and/or emotional pain is a block or disruption in our body’s energy system. Our body gives us clues through feelings and sensations about what is happening within us (e.g. a sore stomach, tight chest). Similarly, it tells us how we feel around others and in certain environments. 

In other words, our body tells us when something is not in alignment. With that awareness, we have the power to shift it.

When we clear out the SHOULDs that get in the way of our needs, passions, and desires…we can create situations that are NOURISHING and NURTURING for us instead.  

Benefit of an EFT practitioner and Energetic Freedom Coach for HSP/Empaths:

My goal is to provide a SAFE, compassionate, secure, and non-judgemental space for you to peel back the layers to release what no longer serves you (aka all those SHOULDs).

SHOULDs, HAVE TOs, and other people’s expectations don’t have to hold you back from your passions and stop you from embracing your brilliant, sensitive, and empathic nature.

You CAN live a life and run your business in a way that feels TRUE to you….

If you are curious how EFT can help you care for your HSP Empath nature in your work/business life, I’d love to have a no-pressure chat.

Let’s take a peek at what SHOULDs are dragging you down. You have permission to ditch them!

Reach out and schedule your free 15-minute call today.

Warmly, Tamara

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Soulful Purpose in Business

Wouldn’t it be incredible if we were all encouraged to find our soulful purpose from a young age?

Imagine how your life and work would be different as a free-spirited HSP/Empath. It’s never too late to reclaim those buried or dormant parts. You CAN live and work with more meaning, authenticity, and enjoyment. It’s a matter of clearing the blocks that are getting in your way. Using EFT, I can help you with that.

The challenge for free-spirited, creative HSP/Empaths:

I have always felt the profound significance of living authentically with soul purpose. To live free of conditioned paradigms (that do not work for us). And to experience creativity, joy, and wonder.

Still, like most of us, I was trained to follow, ‘fit in,’ and got swept up in conditioned paradigms and expectations. 

When we are young, we learn by observing and adapting to our worldly surroundings. We are often told or shown by our parent(s), caregivers, and society at large who THEY THINK we are and should be. It’s about WHO they want us to be, WHAT they want us to do, say, or behave like, and what they think we should DO. This can create an immense amount of confusion.

Unconsciously, we can become controlled and led by beliefs that were learned and taught. Often, they do not even have origins in who we are and how we desire to live. It is so incredibly easy to become lost and deviated.

The trouble is, we are beautiful spirits designed to create, express, learn, grow, share, and explore. To live a life that is from us. Meant for us. And to BE FREE of conditioning. Free from the layers of pain, hurt, trauma, shoulds, and have to’s that direct us away from our true nature, uniqueness, and soulful purpose.

It’s painful to be a free-spirited, creative HSP/Empath trying to navigate and fit in where we do not belong. This can result in depression, anxiety, deep discontentment, and frustration, etc. 

The good news is that there are things we can do to retrieve and reclaim those buried or dormant parts of us. The parts and expectations that are not a fit for us. And to heal the parts of us that do not believe it’s possible to be ourselves. So we can do what we love OR take the risk to do something else that is more in line with us!

How do we make the needed changes to align with our purpose/soulful path?

I have had many unfulfilling jobs in my life and a two-decade business that was not soulfully fulfilling for me. I felt deeply bored, stuck, and trapped. My discontentment kept getting louder, and my spirit would no longer let me look away. Making a leap into the unknown felt terrifying. I did not know what my financial future was going to hold. But I knew that I HAD to do whatever it took to find where my soul was longing to be.

I did A LOT of EFT sessions on all the fear, paralysis, terror, guilt, etc. lying under making the change. It took a deep desire, diligence, openness (and a bit of courage) to remove the fears and conditioning so I could realign with my path. But it is so worth it!

And in the end, it ALL turned out even better than I could have imagined!

You know the expression ‘the universe has your back’? Well, once I cleared all the energetic blocks and fears, things started falling into place. I felt utterly ‘taken care of’ in the broader sense. And I believe everyone can access it if that is in their heart and soul’s desires!

The power of alignment:

I was listening to an interview with EFT Master Carol Look, and she sums this up extremely well by saying, “…appreciation is the energy of alignment. Manifestations follow emotions, and when you are in the emotion of appreciation, that is when things start to shift on that vibrational (or energy) level.”

When we are in the alignment or frequency of flow, life can bring us all kinds of miraculous things with ease. Ideas, solutions, inspirations, seeing things differently, opportunities.

Look goes on to say that, “when we are in alignment, we are open to all possibilities and can appreciate them when they arise.” 

Yes!! I have seen this over and over in my own life! So, to get into alignment, we need to remove the incongruencies (aka negative limiting beliefs, fears, etc.). Then life energy is free to flow in us, and we can create joy and beauty through our alignment! 

How EFT Helps us to Get Into Alignment With Our Uniqueness and Soulful Purpose:  

Shoulds, have to’s, guilt, shame, fear, mistrust, etc., are NOT in the energy of alignment. What is? Authenticity, passion, purpose, curiosity, meaning, trust, faith, expressing our uniqueness and true selves.

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) helps us learn about, observe, hear, and accept how we FEEL. With honesty and compassion, we can honour what’s happening (unconsciously) in our inner worlds! It helps us to gain clarity, insight, and inner knowing. When we are open, we can better understand ourselves and the parts and places that need care and healing.

It has helped me gain insight and understanding in a profound way. I have developed compassion for myself. Freed myself from layers upon layers of conditioned thoughts and beliefs. Released deep emotional pains and burdens. BE me. Live and create a life in line with me.

EFT also helps us to regulate our nervous system so that we experience more balanced calm. Then, with openness and curiosity, we can hear our inner knowing, wisdom, and what our spirits reveal to us!

We Are Not Meant to Fit Into or Conform to Societal Norms and Structures!

We are here to find, reveal, and cultivate the path that is unique to only us!

I am in awe of how beautifully unique everyone is. Unique gifts, talents, abilities, goals, passions, desires, energetic vibration, and soulful purpose(s). Each of us is an essential piece of the bigger puzzle of existence here on Earth.

From my perspective, free Spirited HSPs and Empaths are here to assist in breaking free of old, toxic, harmful, and worn-out institutions and paradigms. We can see/feel/know things that are not aligned with truth and love. So we have essential elements to offer and contribute to healing in the world/planet.

The world needs the energy, skills, compassion, love, care, heart, creativity, kindness, peace, wisdom, etc. of HSP/Empaths…

Getting Support to re-emerge with Soulful Purpose in your Business (as an HSP/Empath):

I am here to support you in celebrating your uniqueness. To help you re-emerge as who you were (before being caught up in cultural and societal conditioned and false beliefs about yourself). If you don’t feel like you fit or belong – you are not meant to!

Book a 15 min discovery link call and we can begin to honour and discover your unique soul’s path!! What you dream of, lights you up, gives you goosebumps, and fills you with joy, freedom, and aliveness!! 

What if you could authentically do what you love AND experience the universe’s support via financial security?

Would you be doing something different in your business right now? Elsewhere?

Let’s explore and see!

Tamara

 

Welcome to Sensitive Soul Path

I am passionate about Highly Sensitive People (HSP) and Empaths living beautifully authentic and inspired lives!

 

 I delight in assisting people to gently uncover the parts and places (in us) that are longing and need to be heard. Our feelings and body sensations hold MUCH wisdom! Often, we try to push away feelings we have labelled as uncomfortable, scary, wrong, or shameful. In locking them in, we cannot hear and understand their deeper meaning, what they are really trying to communicate to us. It also affects our energy and interest levels, and health. 

 

When we gently give voice to locked-in emotions and sensations, we can discover the gifts and wisdom they offer and become energetically free to BE ourselves completely! 

 

  1. Where is your inner voice and soul’s purpose guiding and directing you (to which people, situations, service, passions, gifts, etc.)?

          2. What is wanting to be heard, said, released or done?

 I love to work with HSPs and Empaths that love to do safe, deep inner exploring work to release the layers that do not serve them and their purpose, such as

 

  • clearing and unravelling the energetic blocks along their soul path. These could be unconscious beliefs we took in as a child. 
  • to break free from harmful conditioning in all its forms that do not fit our soul’s purpose and embrace all of themselves and a life fulfilling and authentic to them! 
  • energetically removing yourself from being bogged down by other people’s negative energy or expectations, e.g. do you stay in a situation because of guilt and shame? 
  • clearing the energetic residue of what is keeping you stuck and paralyzed in places and situations that do not resonate in harmony with your souls. 
  • external drains and pressures that do not come from our true desires 
  • clearing the blocks and barriers to accepting and caring for ourselves at the deepest levels.
  • balance our sensitive nervous systems

 If you answered ‘Yes!’ to any of the following questions, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT or ‘Tapping’) and/or Pranic Healing could assist you. Please ask me how! 

 

Do you?

  • want and need to make a significant change, but fear, guilt or shame is leaving you paralyzed, preventing you from taking that leap?
  • feel bogged down by other people’s expectations, societal pressures, and early conditioning? 
  • are you aware of how many expectations you have of yourself that don’t actually belong to you?
  •  feel like you do not fit into society and the existing paradigms and institutions?
  • is the pace of society too busy and rushed for you and your nervous system?
  • struggle with SHOULDS? And as a result, feel like you are not living a life in alignment with your TRUE self?

 Does any of this leave you feeling frustrated, bored, disillusioned, anxious, angry, depressed, unfulfilled, stuck, etc.? 

 

While avoiding external pressures can feel challenging on many levels, ultimately, this is what I believe:

 

 We (HSP Empaths) are not meant to try and “fit in”; we are meant to SEE and FEEL and BE in the world from OUR unique perspective and soul’s purpose!! 

Emotional Freedom Techniques are especially helpful in supporting HSP Empath healing and empowerment:

Emotional Freedom Techniques (also called EFT, or “Tapping”) is a masterful way to gain clarity and insight. EFT helps remove the energetic and emotional blocks, fears, beliefs, and emotions (such as shame) from the body.

Struggle and/or emotional pain is a block or disruption in our body’s energy system. Our body gives us clues through feelings and sensations about what is happening within us (e.g. a sore stomach, tight chest). Similarly, it tells us how we feel around others and in certain environments. 

In other words, our body tells us when something is not in alignment. With that awareness, we have the power to shift it.

Benefit of an EFT practitioner and Energetic Freedom Coach for HSP/ Empaths:

My goal is to provide a SAFE, compassionate, secure, and non-judgemental space for you to peel back the layers to release what no longer serves you (aka all those SHOULDs).

SHOULDs, HAVE TOs, and other people’s expectations don’t have to hold you back from your passions and stop you from embracing your brilliant, sensitive, and empathic nature.

You CAN live a life in a way that feels TRUE to you….

If you are curious about how EFT can help you care for your HSP Empath nature, I’d love to have a no-pressure chat.

Reach out and schedule your free 15-minute call today or email tamara@sensitivesoulpath.com

Warmly, Tamara