The Impact of Healing Complex Trauma

Tamara Low

Energetic Freedom Coach, Author

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Trauma impacts each and every one of us to varying degrees. Trauma can be described as feeling endangered- a threat to your life – or life-force, well-being or sanity. The situation is essentially out of our control, and we may well feel helpless, affecting or interfering with intricate physiological processes in our brain and body designed to diligently keep us safe, identify potential threats, and prevent further trauma. ‘Complex’ and ‘Developmental Trauma’ are the types of trauma that I would like to touch on today- looking at the ways in which healing from them can deeply impact our lives.

‘Complex Trauma’ is repetitive trauma -and often begins early in life-disrupting much of a child’s physical, cognitive, behavioural and emotional development; indeed- the very formation of the ‘self’. It can also seriously interfere with a child’s ability to develop a secure attachment- bond with a parent or caregiver. Moreover, ‘Developmental trauma’ can happen in- utero or after birth- occurring during the physical, neurological, and emotional- growth processes. It commonly stems from insecure attachment with a parent or caregiver.

Unhealed Trauma Impacts us in Various Ways:

Unhealed trauma can affect and impact us physically, mentally, emotionally, psychologically and energetically in numerous ways, including our connection with ourselves and others, how we feel day-to-day, moment- to- moment, and also impacting our sense of safety and our outlook and perspective on life. 

Due to the fact that we were so young when the trauma(s) took place, it can be very difficult, if not impossible to remember it. It is also very difficult to identify the physical and emotional reasons why we might feel the way we do, including the mysterious difficulties or circumstances that we experience, as well as the blocks and the repetition of harmful or unhealthy unconscious patterns or behaviours.

When the trauma and its resultant fear- response is at the forefront of our lives, our physiology- which is making decisions for us, is affected. We might be hypervigilant, on high alert, and our ability to “see” clearly can be greatly hindered. In addition, we might notice feeling unsafe, untrusting, feeling unsettled, anxious, or tense. Also, we may experience emotional and physical pain, and feel a variety of things: for instance -impatience, anger, irritation, frustration. We may also feel pessimistic, scattered-having a difficulty in concentration and focusing: even a feeling of being disconnected- or frozen. There can also be a numbing of emotions, low- energy, a feeling of resignation, self-criticism and we may also notice ourselves being judgemental to the self and/or others; emotionally cutting off- or withdrawing from others, confusion, shame, fear, depression, and suffering from insomnia.

If we were not able to develop a “self” as a child and, therefore, probably not becoming grounded in ourselves, it becomes a lot easier to go off- course and be drawn into unhealthy, toxic situations, negativity, pessimism, feeling helpless (-it being hard to imagine a healthy future) and powerless. It might feel “normal”, and familiar- as it might be what we know. In fact, it is not our “normal” state of being to feel this way- but it, rather, shows us that something is out-of-balance and needs our care and attention. In our natural state of being, we feel safe and alive in our bodies- which can engender natural positive, optimistic and joy-filled states, where we are able to live our deepest and truest lives! Life may indeed bring us challenges and difficulties, but now- , in our natural state, we are better able to meet with and handle them.

Healing Our Energy System 

Pranic Healing 

‘Complex’ and/or ‘Developmental trauma’ can also be seen in our energy body. Through a chakra -scan, we can observe its presence in the congestion or depletion in the solar plexus, adrenal glands and in the brain- specifically the amygdala, vagus nerve, hippocampus, hypothalamus, and thalamus. Physiological -activity in these areas sends messages to and impacts the rest of the body, resulting in symptoms such as digestive -issues, menstrual -problems, back pain, neck pain and so on. As a result, we might receive certain “labels” such as ADHD, depression, anxiety- disorders, etc.

Pranic Healing can assist us in healing and clearing the trauma/trauma energy/trauma- response throughout the chakras- impacting our physiology, nervous system, emotions, and the mind.

Emotional Freedom Techniques 

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT or “Tapping”) is a somatic (body) release technique which has been shown to decrease amygdala- activation, which can reduce the stress -response, slowing down heart -rate and respiration- moving away from sympathetic- activation towards the optimal arousal zone/regulation. Trauma tends to dysregulate the brain, and EFT helps re-regulate the brain and re-establish full cognitive resources. 

When our nervous system and brain come back into balance, our unconscious mind becomes more freed- up to assist us with deep-level understanding, for example, offering us memories, ideas and insights which help to heal the energetic, physical, mental, emotional block(s), so that we can reclaim the parts of us that the trauma altered or derailed.

Indeed, ‘Pranic Healing’ and ‘Emotional Freedom Techniques’ can work so beautifully in tandem with one another to address complex trauma.  

Re-Connecting with Ourselves and Others

When we are able to look at, identify, safely process, and heal the original trauma, the more our nervous systems/bodies, physiology, mind, and emotions can relax and feel safe and secure. This changes how we feel in our bodies, about ourselves, and how we feel in the world-altering our outlook and perceptions and enabling us to become more resilient and better equipped to handle life’s many challenges and twists and turns.

We can feel more free to connect with others more deeply and in meaningful and positive ways, including looking for solutions and cooperating with others for the common good. We may begin to develop or remember the parts of ourselves that need our love, compassion, care, and understanding and indeed give these to ourselves. 

End Summary 

A lifetime can be affected by the events that happen during childhood. What happened to us, what we experienced, and what we “took in” on a deep level about ourselves and the world- and our safety is what we experienced and NOT who we ARE at our core, although it may feel that way.

Healing trauma is a sacred process. When we begin to heal the layers of the trauma and the impact on our nervous- system, energy- system, self-esteem and sense of safety in the world, we may then naturally become acquainted with our TRUE selves and begin to feel peaceful, more at ease, calm, positive, hopeful and grateful in our being(s) and in the world, and that, to me, s a beautiful thing!

Reach out and schedule a free 15-minute call or email




The definitions of Trauma and Complex and Developmental Trauma were adapted from

“Tapping Out of Trauma 1.0”- by Craig Weiner DC and Suzanne Fageol CC

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Soulful Purpose in Business

Wouldn’t it be incredible if we were all encouraged to find our soulful purpose from a young age?

Imagine how your life and work would be different as a free-spirited HSP/Empath. It’s never too late to reclaim those buried or dormant parts. You CAN live and work with more meaning, authenticity, and enjoyment. It’s a matter of clearing the blocks that are getting in your way. Using EFT, I can help you with that.

The challenge for free-spirited, creative HSP/Empaths:

I have always felt the profound significance of living authentically with soul purpose. To live free of conditioned paradigms (that do not work for us). And to experience creativity, joy, and wonder.

Still, like most of us, I was trained to follow, ‘fit in,’ and got swept up in conditioned paradigms and expectations. 

When we are young, we learn by observing and adapting to our worldly surroundings. We are often told or shown by our parent(s), caregivers, and society at large who THEY THINK we are and should be. It’s about WHO they want us to be, WHAT they want us to do, say, or behave like, and what they think we should DO. This can create an immense amount of confusion.

Unconsciously, we can become controlled and led by beliefs that were learned and taught. Often, they do not even have origins in who we are and how we desire to live. It is so incredibly easy to become lost and deviated.

The trouble is, we are beautiful spirits designed to create, express, learn, grow, share, and explore. To live a life that is from us. Meant for us. And to BE FREE of conditioning. Free from the layers of pain, hurt, trauma, shoulds, and have to’s that direct us away from our true nature, uniqueness, and soulful purpose.

It’s painful to be a free-spirited, creative HSP/Empath trying to navigate and fit in where we do not belong. This can result in depression, anxiety, deep discontentment, and frustration, etc. 

The good news is that there are things we can do to retrieve and reclaim those buried or dormant parts of us. The parts and expectations that are not a fit for us. And to heal the parts of us that do not believe it’s possible to be ourselves. So we can do what we love OR take the risk to do something else that is more in line with us!

How do we make the needed changes to align with our purpose/soulful path?

I have had many unfulfilling jobs in my life and a two-decade business that was not soulfully fulfilling for me. I felt deeply bored, stuck, and trapped. My discontentment kept getting louder, and my spirit would no longer let me look away. Making a leap into the unknown felt terrifying. I did not know what my financial future was going to hold. But I knew that I HAD to do whatever it took to find where my soul was longing to be.

I did A LOT of EFT sessions on all the fear, paralysis, terror, guilt, etc. lying under making the change. It took a deep desire, diligence, openness (and a bit of courage) to remove the fears and conditioning so I could realign with my path. But it is so worth it!

And in the end, it ALL turned out even better than I could have imagined!

You know the expression ‘the universe has your back’? Well, once I cleared all the energetic blocks and fears, things started falling into place. I felt utterly ‘taken care of’ in the broader sense. And I believe everyone can access it if that is in their heart and soul’s desires!

The power of alignment:

I was listening to an interview with EFT Master Carol Look, and she sums this up extremely well by saying, “…appreciation is the energy of alignment. Manifestations follow emotions, and when you are in the emotion of appreciation, that is when things start to shift on that vibrational (or energy) level.”

When we are in the alignment or frequency of flow, life can bring us all kinds of miraculous things with ease. Ideas, solutions, inspirations, seeing things differently, opportunities.

Look goes on to say that, “when we are in alignment, we are open to all possibilities and can appreciate them when they arise.” 

Yes!! I have seen this over and over in my own life! So, to get into alignment, we need to remove the incongruencies (aka negative limiting beliefs, fears, etc.). Then life energy is free to flow in us, and we can create joy and beauty through our alignment! 

How EFT Helps us to Get Into Alignment With Our Uniqueness and Soulful Purpose:  

Shoulds, have to’s, guilt, shame, fear, mistrust, etc., are NOT in the energy of alignment. What is? Authenticity, passion, purpose, curiosity, meaning, trust, faith, expressing our uniqueness and true selves.

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) helps us learn about, observe, hear, and accept how we FEEL. With honesty and compassion, we can honour what’s happening (unconsciously) in our inner worlds! It helps us to gain clarity, insight, and inner knowing. When we are open, we can better understand ourselves and the parts and places that need care and healing.

It has helped me gain insight and understanding in a profound way. I have developed compassion for myself. Freed myself from layers upon layers of conditioned thoughts and beliefs. Released deep emotional pains and burdens. BE me. Live and create a life in line with me.

EFT also helps us to regulate our nervous system so that we experience more balanced calm. Then, with openness and curiosity, we can hear our inner knowing, wisdom, and what our spirits reveal to us!

We Are Not Meant to Fit Into or Conform to Societal Norms and Structures!

We are here to find, reveal, and cultivate the path that is unique to only us!

I am in awe of how beautifully unique everyone is. Unique gifts, talents, abilities, goals, passions, desires, energetic vibration, and soulful purpose(s). Each of us is an essential piece of the bigger puzzle of existence here on Earth.

From my perspective, free Spirited HSPs and Empaths are here to assist in breaking free of old, toxic, harmful, and worn-out institutions and paradigms. We can see/feel/know things that are not aligned with truth and love. So we have essential elements to offer and contribute to healing in the world/planet.

The world needs the energy, skills, compassion, love, care, heart, creativity, kindness, peace, wisdom, etc. of HSP/Empaths…

Getting Support to re-emerge with Soulful Purpose in your Business (as an HSP/Empath):

I am here to support you in celebrating your uniqueness. To help you re-emerge as who you were (before being caught up in cultural and societal conditioned and false beliefs about yourself). If you don’t feel like you fit or belong – you are not meant to!

Book a 15 min discovery link call and we can begin to honour and discover your unique soul’s path!! What you dream of, lights you up, gives you goosebumps, and fills you with joy, freedom, and aliveness!! 

What if you could authentically do what you love AND experience the universe’s support via financial security?

Would you be doing something different in your business right now? Elsewhere?

Let’s explore and see!



Welcome to Sensitive Soul Path

I am passionate about Highly Sensitive People (HSP) and Empaths living beautifully authentic and inspired lives!


 I delight in assisting people to gently uncover the parts and places (in us) that are longing and need to be heard. Our feelings and body sensations hold MUCH wisdom! Often, we try to push away feelings we have labelled as uncomfortable, scary, wrong, or shameful. In locking them in, we cannot hear and understand their deeper meaning, what they are really trying to communicate to us. It also affects our energy and interest levels, and health. 


When we gently give voice to locked-in emotions and sensations, we can discover the gifts and wisdom they offer and become energetically free to BE ourselves completely! 


  1. Where is your inner voice and soul’s purpose guiding and directing you (to which people, situations, service, passions, gifts, etc.)?

          2. What is wanting to be heard, said, released or done?

 I love to work with HSPs and Empaths that love to do safe, deep inner exploring work to release the layers that do not serve them and their purpose, such as


  • clearing and unravelling the energetic blocks along their soul path. These could be unconscious beliefs we took in as a child. 
  • to break free from harmful conditioning in all its forms that do not fit our soul’s purpose and embrace all of themselves and a life fulfilling and authentic to them! 
  • energetically removing yourself from being bogged down by other people’s negative energy or expectations, e.g. do you stay in a situation because of guilt and shame? 
  • clearing the energetic residue of what is keeping you stuck and paralyzed in places and situations that do not resonate in harmony with your souls. 
  • external drains and pressures that do not come from our true desires 
  • clearing the blocks and barriers to accepting and caring for ourselves at the deepest levels.
  • balance our sensitive nervous systems

 If you answered ‘Yes!’ to any of the following questions, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT or ‘Tapping’) and/or Pranic Healing could assist you. Please ask me how! 


Do you?

  • want and need to make a significant change, but fear, guilt or shame is leaving you paralyzed, preventing you from taking that leap?
  • feel bogged down by other people’s expectations, societal pressures, and early conditioning? 
  • are you aware of how many expectations you have of yourself that don’t actually belong to you?
  •  feel like you do not fit into society and the existing paradigms and institutions?
  • is the pace of society too busy and rushed for you and your nervous system?
  • struggle with SHOULDS? And as a result, feel like you are not living a life in alignment with your TRUE self?

 Does any of this leave you feeling frustrated, bored, disillusioned, anxious, angry, depressed, unfulfilled, stuck, etc.? 


While avoiding external pressures can feel challenging on many levels, ultimately, this is what I believe:


 We (HSP Empaths) are not meant to try and “fit in”; we are meant to SEE and FEEL and BE in the world from OUR unique perspective and soul’s purpose!! 

Emotional Freedom Techniques are especially helpful in supporting HSP Empath healing and empowerment:

Emotional Freedom Techniques (also called EFT, or “Tapping”) is a masterful way to gain clarity and insight. EFT helps remove the energetic and emotional blocks, fears, beliefs, and emotions (such as shame) from the body.

Struggle and/or emotional pain is a block or disruption in our body’s energy system. Our body gives us clues through feelings and sensations about what is happening within us (e.g. a sore stomach, tight chest). Similarly, it tells us how we feel around others and in certain environments. 

In other words, our body tells us when something is not in alignment. With that awareness, we have the power to shift it.

Benefit of an EFT practitioner and Energetic Freedom Coach for HSP/ Empaths:

My goal is to provide a SAFE, compassionate, secure, and non-judgemental space for you to peel back the layers to release what no longer serves you (aka all those SHOULDs).

SHOULDs, HAVE TOs, and other people’s expectations don’t have to hold you back from your passions and stop you from embracing your brilliant, sensitive, and empathic nature.

You CAN live a life in a way that feels TRUE to you….

If you are curious about how EFT can help you care for your HSP Empath nature, I’d love to have a no-pressure chat.

Reach out and schedule your free 15-minute call today or email

Warmly, Tamara