The Importance of Sensitive Soul Decision Making

Tamara Low

Energetic Freedom Coach, Author

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Human beings need to constantly make decisions, ranging from monumentally life-changing and relatively insignificant to many colours and shades in between. We firmly know some of the reasons, and some are unconscious, hidden from our awareness. I feel that it is essential for HSP/Empaths to make decisions that are in line with their beautiful, sensitive nature. I will call it ‘sensitive soul decision making,’ which is very often overlooked for numerous reasons.

As HSP/Empaths, our decisions profoundly impact our sensitive souls, nervous systems, and energy systems. I very recently became aware of aspects that can creep into my decision-making process that have not been in line with my deep sensitivity and the way I desire to feel in my body, nervous system, and energy system. In fact, my nervous system is often teetering on overwhelm, exhaustion and overstimulation. Can you relate? I recently wrote:

“The inner state that I value the MOST (in and around me), essential for me to feel whole and completely aligned with myself are balance, calm, ease, peace, joy, harmony, and love.”  

But this had not been my experience the majority of my life! Hmmm. I became acutely aware that something BIG needs to change and be rebalanced in me to bring this deep desire into fruition!

Sensitive Soul Decision Making Blind Spots 

Upon reflection, the first area that I notice in myself that can trip me up is that a part of me can be very impatient and impulsive. My sometimes ‘impatient and impulsive’ inner child can sometimes push her way into the driver’s seat! Here is a recent example:

I love dogs and have since a very young age, and I love to combine my love of dogs with my love of being in and around nature/the outdoors (including off-leash parks).

Nicky the “Grippet”

I first noticed being out of harmony here nine years ago. We rescued a one-year-old whippet/greyhound from Ireland (Nicky). Sadly, he had a traumatic early start to life and was never properly socialized. He had a lovely nature and loved people, but with some dogs (due to his past), he developed an ‘I am going to get you before you get me mentality.’ He was not good at off-leash parks and was reactive with dogs on leash. I felt him always being on guard/on edge, which took away from my essential (to me) ease-filled walks. I/we worked with a trainer, but he/we never quite got ‘there.’ 

Of course, it was not his fault. We provided him with a safe, loving, home-centred life he wanted and needed. Nicky passed away (of a heart condition last fall), so we started looking for another rescue dog. I inquired to many rescue organizations about many dogs. They were getting scooped up very fast! Yes, enter some impatience. I had been following a rescue organization out of Saskatchewan that was set to come to BC in a few days. 

Willow the “Lusky”

I inquired about a dog named Willow. Shes a one year old Lab/Husky mix. I had a chat with Willow’s foster mom, and all sounded great. I felt no red flags. She even called her ‘the perfect dog.’ I asked her how she was on a leash, and she said she did not know. She actually did not know what she was like outside her house. As someone that has done fostering before, I thought that was weird, but she sounded so lovely. How bad could her leash walking/outside the house be!? Well, I was about to find out…

Meeting Willow

I met the rescue van in the Safeway parking lot at 9:30 pm on the night of my very excited son’s 13 birthday. He was at his dad’s till the following morning. They handed me the leash with Willow on the other end, and in less than 10 seconds, she pulled her head out of the collar. Oh boy!! The people around, excited to meet their new rescue dogs, tried to help by reaching out to grab her, which scared her, and she bolted across a busy street in an alleyway behind a school. Yikes!

What ensued was an excruciating next 2.5 hours trying to find her in the dark night of winter! I said out loud to God/the Universe, ‘I am asking you for a miracle here!”….a couple of minutes later, two angels who reached out to me after seeing my Facebook post about her called and said they found her! She was so scared/fearful – what a relief!

The next day I learned that she has an extreme prey drive, the pulling power and intensity of a sled dog and possibly some leash aggression. Oh-oh!! I felt frozen and in shock.

This Was Not a Sensitive Soul Decision!!

My spirit needs and wants a dog that is soothing and gentle to my already amped-up nervous system. But as I said before, impatience and impulsivity have been unconsciously operating the show and taking my nervous system on a wild ride into the weeds and swamp. I started paying attention to the beliefs behind it. 1) I might miss out if I don’t act quickly, and 2) I need to force things to happen, or they won’t happen. I was not trusting that what was and is meant for me will find me. I have since been looking at these beliefs with EFT!

As a sensitive being bringing a new animal into the home is always an adjustment. But I did not gather all of the information (nor meet her in person) that I needed to make a decision based on inner peace, ease and alignment! (*It is important to note that she is NOT at all a bad dog, she is young, energetic, and never learned boundaries, or it seems lived in a home or walked on leash before).

Aligning Our Outside Decisions with Our Sensitive Insides 

I grew up in the 70’s and 80’s, and caring for ourselves and checking in and honouring how we feel and what is best for us and our sensitive nature /nervous systems was just not a thing! Adapting to and fitting in with the norm was what was expected. I never learned or was shown how to make decisions based on whether this felt good or aligned with me. I felt judged by others for ‘my sensitive shortcomings.’

Therefore, I always have felt like my sensitivity/being an empath is a weakness, a flaw, a disability of sorts. I have felt that it makes me high maintenance and I have severely judged and shamed myself as a result. I have firmly held the belief that I just need to push through it all. This has resulted in many struggles that were done in shameful silence (most of my life). I wonder if you can relate? EFT profoundly helped me accept and learn to love this part of me and I feel confident that it can help you too!

I realized I have never made decisions in my life from the place of is it harmonious with my very sensitive nervous system. Instead, I was trying to be in the world from ‘everyone elses’ nervous system.

I am DONE with pushing and forcing things! Ironically, I was listing to Martha Beck being interviewed on the ‘I Can do Hard Things’ podcast yesterday…. She said, ‘Straining is NOT a way to make things work! When you stop doing things by pushing, you will relax into nature. The power of nature itself has intentions, and it has a design for you and will pick you up like a river. Then life starts happening through you. Bring everything you have to it, then let go. Yes!

Sweet Strong-Willed Willow and Lessons Learned

We have had sweet one-year-old strong-willed Willow for two months now. She is relaxing into her true nature (and so am I – ha), and she is a fantastic playmate for my son. The rest we are taking steps towards my goal of a compatable outdoor adventure companion. She is not leash aggressive, just very excited to meet other dogs. It has been challenging and stressful for us and Willow (thank you Pranic Healing) in many ways, but, she has helped me cement my the essential need for conscious, ‘sensitive soul decision making’ from and for my true and deeply sensitive nature and that I am worthy of feeling peaceful inside and outside! Yippee!

Impatience and impulsivity might surely arise, but now I can see them differently. There is no need to rush and panic in decision-making! It’s so important to take our time and really check in with ourselves with how the decision will impact us on all levels.

I am curious, what qualities does your sensitive soul require of you regarding sensitive soul decision-making?

EFT (aka ‘Tapping’) can assist us with self-discovery and awareness, and all levels of decision making. It can also help us to come to terms with the consequences of decisions that we wish that we had never made.

I invite you to book a free 15 min call to discuss how EFT and Pranic Healing can assist you and your beautiful sensitivity in creating what you want in your life and make peace with what you don’t (or no longer) want.

*I also do distance energy work for dogs!

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Soulful Purpose in Business

Wouldn’t it be incredible if we were all encouraged to find our soulful purpose from a young age?

Imagine how your life and work would be different as a free-spirited HSP/Empath. It’s never too late to reclaim those buried or dormant parts. You CAN live and work with more meaning, authenticity, and enjoyment. It’s a matter of clearing the blocks that are getting in your way. Using EFT, I can help you with that.

The challenge for free-spirited, creative HSP/Empaths:

I have always felt the profound significance of living authentically with soul purpose. To live free of conditioned paradigms (that do not work for us). And to experience creativity, joy, and wonder.

Still, like most of us, I was trained to follow, ‘fit in,’ and got swept up in conditioned paradigms and expectations. 

When we are young, we learn by observing and adapting to our worldly surroundings. We are often told or shown by our parent(s), caregivers, and society at large who THEY THINK we are and should be. It’s about WHO they want us to be, WHAT they want us to do, say, or behave like, and what they think we should DO. This can create an immense amount of confusion.

Unconsciously, we can become controlled and led by beliefs that were learned and taught. Often, they do not even have origins in who we are and how we desire to live. It is so incredibly easy to become lost and deviated.

The trouble is, we are beautiful spirits designed to create, express, learn, grow, share, and explore. To live a life that is from us. Meant for us. And to BE FREE of conditioning. Free from the layers of pain, hurt, trauma, shoulds, and have to’s that direct us away from our true nature, uniqueness, and soulful purpose.

It’s painful to be a free-spirited, creative HSP/Empath trying to navigate and fit in where we do not belong. This can result in depression, anxiety, deep discontentment, and frustration, etc. 

The good news is that there are things we can do to retrieve and reclaim those buried or dormant parts of us. The parts and expectations that are not a fit for us. And to heal the parts of us that do not believe it’s possible to be ourselves. So we can do what we love OR take the risk to do something else that is more in line with us!

How do we make the needed changes to align with our purpose/soulful path?

I have had many unfulfilling jobs in my life and a two-decade business that was not soulfully fulfilling for me. I felt deeply bored, stuck, and trapped. My discontentment kept getting louder, and my spirit would no longer let me look away. Making a leap into the unknown felt terrifying. I did not know what my financial future was going to hold. But I knew that I HAD to do whatever it took to find where my soul was longing to be.

I did A LOT of EFT sessions on all the fear, paralysis, terror, guilt, etc. lying under making the change. It took a deep desire, diligence, openness (and a bit of courage) to remove the fears and conditioning so I could realign with my path. But it is so worth it!

And in the end, it ALL turned out even better than I could have imagined!

You know the expression ‘the universe has your back’? Well, once I cleared all the energetic blocks and fears, things started falling into place. I felt utterly ‘taken care of’ in the broader sense. And I believe everyone can access it if that is in their heart and soul’s desires!

The power of alignment:

I was listening to an interview with EFT Master Carol Look, and she sums this up extremely well by saying, “…appreciation is the energy of alignment. Manifestations follow emotions, and when you are in the emotion of appreciation, that is when things start to shift on that vibrational (or energy) level.”

When we are in the alignment or frequency of flow, life can bring us all kinds of miraculous things with ease. Ideas, solutions, inspirations, seeing things differently, opportunities.

Look goes on to say that, “when we are in alignment, we are open to all possibilities and can appreciate them when they arise.” 

Yes!! I have seen this over and over in my own life! So, to get into alignment, we need to remove the incongruencies (aka negative limiting beliefs, fears, etc.). Then life energy is free to flow in us, and we can create joy and beauty through our alignment! 

How EFT Helps us to Get Into Alignment With Our Uniqueness and Soulful Purpose:  

Shoulds, have to’s, guilt, shame, fear, mistrust, etc., are NOT in the energy of alignment. What is? Authenticity, passion, purpose, curiosity, meaning, trust, faith, expressing our uniqueness and true selves.

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) helps us learn about, observe, hear, and accept how we FEEL. With honesty and compassion, we can honour what’s happening (unconsciously) in our inner worlds! It helps us to gain clarity, insight, and inner knowing. When we are open, we can better understand ourselves and the parts and places that need care and healing.

It has helped me gain insight and understanding in a profound way. I have developed compassion for myself. Freed myself from layers upon layers of conditioned thoughts and beliefs. Released deep emotional pains and burdens. BE me. Live and create a life in line with me.

EFT also helps us to regulate our nervous system so that we experience more balanced calm. Then, with openness and curiosity, we can hear our inner knowing, wisdom, and what our spirits reveal to us!

We Are Not Meant to Fit Into or Conform to Societal Norms and Structures!

We are here to find, reveal, and cultivate the path that is unique to only us!

I am in awe of how beautifully unique everyone is. Unique gifts, talents, abilities, goals, passions, desires, energetic vibration, and soulful purpose(s). Each of us is an essential piece of the bigger puzzle of existence here on Earth.

From my perspective, free Spirited HSPs and Empaths are here to assist in breaking free of old, toxic, harmful, and worn-out institutions and paradigms. We can see/feel/know things that are not aligned with truth and love. So we have essential elements to offer and contribute to healing in the world/planet.

The world needs the energy, skills, compassion, love, care, heart, creativity, kindness, peace, wisdom, etc. of HSP/Empaths…

Getting Support to re-emerge with Soulful Purpose in your Business (as an HSP/Empath):

I am here to support you in celebrating your uniqueness. To help you re-emerge as who you were (before being caught up in cultural and societal conditioned and false beliefs about yourself). If you don’t feel like you fit or belong – you are not meant to!

Book a 15 min discovery link call and we can begin to honour and discover your unique soul’s path!! What you dream of, lights you up, gives you goosebumps, and fills you with joy, freedom, and aliveness!! 

What if you could authentically do what you love AND experience the universe’s support via financial security?

Would you be doing something different in your business right now? Elsewhere?

Let’s explore and see!

Tamara

 

Welcome to Sensitive Soul Path

I am passionate about Highly Sensitive People (HSP) and Empaths living beautifully authentic and inspired lives!

 

 I delight in assisting people to gently uncover the parts and places (in us) that are longing and need to be heard. Our feelings and body sensations hold MUCH wisdom! Often, we try to push away feelings we have labelled as uncomfortable, scary, wrong, or shameful. In locking them in, we cannot hear and understand their deeper meaning, what they are really trying to communicate to us. It also affects our energy and interest levels, and health. 

 

When we gently give voice to locked-in emotions and sensations, we can discover the gifts and wisdom they offer and become energetically free to BE ourselves completely! 

 

  1. Where is your inner voice and soul’s purpose guiding and directing you (to which people, situations, service, passions, gifts, etc.)?

          2. What is wanting to be heard, said, released or done?

 I love to work with HSPs and Empaths that love to do safe, deep inner exploring work to release the layers that do not serve them and their purpose, such as

 

  • clearing and unravelling the energetic blocks along their soul path. These could be unconscious beliefs we took in as a child. 
  • to break free from harmful conditioning in all its forms that do not fit our soul’s purpose and embrace all of themselves and a life fulfilling and authentic to them! 
  • energetically removing yourself from being bogged down by other people’s negative energy or expectations, e.g. do you stay in a situation because of guilt and shame? 
  • clearing the energetic residue of what is keeping you stuck and paralyzed in places and situations that do not resonate in harmony with your souls. 
  • external drains and pressures that do not come from our true desires 
  • clearing the blocks and barriers to accepting and caring for ourselves at the deepest levels.
  • balance our sensitive nervous systems

 If you answered ‘Yes!’ to any of the following questions, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT or ‘Tapping’) and/or Pranic Healing could assist you. Please ask me how! 

 

Do you?

  • want and need to make a significant change, but fear, guilt or shame is leaving you paralyzed, preventing you from taking that leap?
  • feel bogged down by other people’s expectations, societal pressures, and early conditioning? 
  • are you aware of how many expectations you have of yourself that don’t actually belong to you?
  •  feel like you do not fit into society and the existing paradigms and institutions?
  • is the pace of society too busy and rushed for you and your nervous system?
  • struggle with SHOULDS? And as a result, feel like you are not living a life in alignment with your TRUE self?

 Does any of this leave you feeling frustrated, bored, disillusioned, anxious, angry, depressed, unfulfilled, stuck, etc.? 

 

While avoiding external pressures can feel challenging on many levels, ultimately, this is what I believe:

 

 We (HSP Empaths) are not meant to try and “fit in”; we are meant to SEE and FEEL and BE in the world from OUR unique perspective and soul’s purpose!! 

Emotional Freedom Techniques are especially helpful in supporting HSP Empath healing and empowerment:

Emotional Freedom Techniques (also called EFT, or “Tapping”) is a masterful way to gain clarity and insight. EFT helps remove the energetic and emotional blocks, fears, beliefs, and emotions (such as shame) from the body.

Struggle and/or emotional pain is a block or disruption in our body’s energy system. Our body gives us clues through feelings and sensations about what is happening within us (e.g. a sore stomach, tight chest). Similarly, it tells us how we feel around others and in certain environments. 

In other words, our body tells us when something is not in alignment. With that awareness, we have the power to shift it.

Benefit of an EFT practitioner and Energetic Freedom Coach for HSP/ Empaths:

My goal is to provide a SAFE, compassionate, secure, and non-judgemental space for you to peel back the layers to release what no longer serves you (aka all those SHOULDs).

SHOULDs, HAVE TOs, and other people’s expectations don’t have to hold you back from your passions and stop you from embracing your brilliant, sensitive, and empathic nature.

You CAN live a life in a way that feels TRUE to you….

If you are curious about how EFT can help you care for your HSP Empath nature, I’d love to have a no-pressure chat.

Reach out and schedule your free 15-minute call today or email tamara@sensitivesoulpath.com

Warmly, Tamara